Making pancakes for a birthday tea, being helpful & a lesson learned.

Yesterday, the boys made a birthday tea for Auntie K, K’s godma & a sister of my heart. Pancakes with baked bananas (steeped in orange/lemon juice with a dash of honey). Tea with honey and lemon. The boys actually made the pancakes, k’s first time and he was most careful in flipping it over but he was so proud of himself being able to cook like his brothers and doing it himself (under supervision). He does get so competitive with his older brothers and frustrated at the same time, feeling that he doesnt know what they do or do tasks like they can.

Today, we went to Tesco to do some last minute shopping and we were at the spices aisle, looking for Rendang paste, an older lady asked us for help reading the packet as she couldn’t see the small lettering. The twins helped her read it and then asked which one she was looking for and the 3 of them found the curry paste she was looking for, and the price. Later, she came back to us (after putting her items in the trolley) she then interrogated them about their country of origin, what do they want to be when they grow up, why no school, etc etc she was horrified to find that they had no firm idea of future job, k said im only 7+ you know. They were polite and very patient with her though. She had assumed that they were so polite and helpful, therefore they’d be from another country. That is a sad state of affairs if that’s true. It’s not the 1st time though, someone has brought this up (strangers). Then k had to top it off asking me what condoms were while waiting at the counter to purchase things and j1 told him they are to stop folks having babies, but don’t ask him how cos he’s not sure, it’s probably some science thing, but anyway you’re too young. They were like ok! and looked at Wreck it Ralph activity books instead. Ahh.. my boys.. never a dull moment.. .why does this never happen to hubby? Always me. :P

We had gone to get our tshirt supply for our next M*M print run, and we were discussing the costs of something or another. K said he had hoped that Mama is a billionaire one day so I wouldn’t have so much stress and worry (sniff).. I said well billionaire is a bit much. so he said “whatever amount that will help Mama!” So we had a discussion about how much is too much or is it that important to have THAT much? j2′s view was that we should live in smaller houses or cosy houses cos it’s easier to look after and we;d live longer being together (j2 has random theories, I think I missed some points somewhere).. I told them we are rich in other ways even though we don’t have a lot of money or regular income. J1 said yaaaa, we have family and other people (sorry friends, y’all are “other people”) and we love each other and all that.. some folks just don’t have that.. and k says yaaa and we get to draw and go to comic cons and all that cool stuff too! It was interesting to hear their views and how the money would be nice but oklah, we are happy too :)

I guess it’s days like this that you realised that they have absorbed what you’ve taught them, and aren’t repeating it just cos you told them to, they genuinely believe it. There’s still hope in that case :)

One keeps on trying!

Today’s creative writing: If I was a superhero..

Decided to video the boys reading their own stories. I wanted to start them on creative writing lessons, slowly, although I think they are already on the way there. Also it’s good for them to practice making presentations etc, slowly :) Got a huge kick out of listening to their stories :)

so here it is “If I was a superhero”

j1:

j2:

K

All three videos are here on a playlist :)

Live life with sassitude. Maintaining that while facing the hard stuff. Can you?

How do you like our new background? :) much nicer than the original glass/drink thing!! :)

Shallowness aside, what is the hardest thing I’ve ever done? It should be a list of things, to be honest.

1. Parenting 3 lively monkeys (I mean sons).
2. Trying to be a creative entrepreneur while running a household, unschooling those same monkeys (and giving them more educational options), family, marriage, maintaining creative outlets).
3. Dealing with accounting, taxes, money (or lack thereof).
4. Finding that balance in life, to have things that you do when the kids have moved out, to still be ME.
5. Seeing potential and it’s going to waste (major pet peeve) for whatever reasons, and I have to tell myself to step back and let things be.
6. trying to maintain a garden. :D (Yes, I seem to kill plants with ease, I gladly have outsourced garden maintenance to j2!)

When folks say to you “wah, you’re a housewife ah? Must be so free!” or those who call up (and know you work from home) and say “eh? you working ah? but you’re at home” or those who think being your own boss means that you don’t have to work so hard or it’s the easy life all the way or I am a mother/wife only, obviously can’t be a creative entrepreneur or you’re neglecting your kids due to trying to juggle all the many hats I wear..

it has been tempting to say many unprintable things.. Generally I stick to rolling my eyes (inside of course, depending on who I’m talking to) or nodding politely or just smile and change the subject.

I like to tell my boys that you can be many things, like Mama is, it is just many facets to what makes you, you. I can be Mama, wife, entrepreneur, writer, Boss Lady, domestic engineer (with varying results haha). I think everyone is multifaceted (politicians are another story, but let’s not go there ;) ). It’s what makes people interesting, confusing, different and yet the same.

I don’t blog often, more to post on what the boys are doing (darn you social media instant posts!). Maybe I should write for myself more. Being Boss Lady, Manager, working for clients, thinking up world domination plans (haha), banging the gong for things, being a cheerleader for those you support, being Mama/daughter/wife, is awesome and the craziest roller coaster ride yes, but I need to write/create for me too. I don’t have anyone to draw what scripts I have on the back burner (no, I don’t draw, I even fail at stick men, it’s a hard life living in a houseful of artists & budding artists LOL) but poetry, writing blog posts, maybe that will do for now.

Does this mean that I would want to do that whole “eat pray love” journey thing to “find myself” whilst leaving everyone behind? No. so not my thing. Ok admittedly I’d happily do the eating part :D That’s where the Cuddly comes in ;) But I know who I am, before or after coffee. For better or for worse.

I still believe that you need to live life with sassitude. My favourite saying since I was 12, was Fortune Aids the Brave. I still believe in that, no matter how dark the days, how empty the bank accounts look, how much you worry. There is always a silver lining, even if you need a microscope to see it some days.

I hope that my sons will pick up this thinking as I did from my dad. He always told me that there’s always blessings to be found, and things never are as bad as they seem. As I wrote once, “there is always hope.” :) Partly this retrospective blogpost is because it was a very rough day today and it is my dad’s birthday this weekend, and I hope my boys continue to learn from him (and their dad!) as awesome examples of a good man.

Happy birthday Papa for this weekend. May you live many many years more, healthy, happy and with us!

A poem I wrote for my dad on his 65th birthday way back when:

Our Father

He stands Tall
Not only in height but in integrity
He is loyal, firm yet kind
He is our father.

Smart, handsome
With a calming influence
He taught us the value of filial piety
He taught us how to feel proud of our country and family
He is our father.

He has been a wonderful father
grandfather and father-in-law
Teaching us the worthwhile values and ethics
Much needed in Life.
He gave us the quiet strength he needed to overcome
The many obstacles in life
He is our father.

Although life may have thrown many a trial and tribulation
Towards him
He has shown us the true spirit of a good and honest man
We can easily say with pride and loving hearts
“He is our father!”

Angelia Ong.
On occasion of Dad’s 65th Birthday.
March 29th 2000

We love you Grandpa :)

CF

a few older poems-revisited

I realised that I haven’t posted poetry here (darn you social media LOL)

You Will find the Strength

Although times may seem dark and dreary

You will find the strength to go on within yourself.

When life seems on a downward path

When tears seem to fall on a regular basis,

When it seems as if you are alone,

You will find the strength within your self.

When the day seems an uphill battle

When the wrongs seems to be more than the rights

When everyone seems to be against you

You will find the strength within yourself.

When the day seems long and hard

When worries seem to pile up

When fights erupt around you and the world seems uncaring

You will find the strength within yourself.

Strength lies deep within yourself

Pools of resolve which you can draw on

No matter what pain, dramas and battles you will face over the years

You will find the strength to carry on

You don’t have to look far, just within yourself

You will find the strength within yourself.

Angelia Ong
13 Dec 1999

Never Give Up

Although it seems that life throws curveballs more than flowers,

Never give up.

Even when the rain pelts down on what should be your parade,

Never give up.

Even when the bills pile up higher than your ability to pay them,

Never give up.

The clouds may seem to hide the sun, but there is always hope.

Walk with those who are willing to just be there,

Quiet in their support through your pain,

Talk to those who know what you go through.

Lean on those who are willing to stand with you,

Giving you strength when you need it,

Telling you “not to give up”.

For you need not walk alone in those dark days

It is not a failure to accept help when offered,

Especially from those whose sincerity rings true.

It’s not a failure to feel that you are struggling and to admit it,

For those who care, this will not matter,

They will be there, with whatever you need.

Never give up hope.

For there’s a silver lining in the darkness,

It may seem faint or hardly there at all,

But that silver thread of hope and positivity is always there.

It calls out to you to never give up,

to fight through those dark days.

Through the tears, through the losses

It is there in the voices of those who love you, who support you when you need it most

It is there in the precious moments and memories you share,

In laughter, tears and the quietness of just being together,

those blessings you do have but can’t always see

Hold onto that silver thread of hope tightly and never give up.

Angelia Ong

01 Nov 2012

There is always hope

There’s hope in your tears

for with those watery droplets, pain leaves your soul.

There’s hope in those arms

which encircle you, bringing comfort when you need it.

There’s hope in children’s laughter

as they find joy in the world around them.

There’s hope in those quiet moments

Reading your favourite book or comic.

There’s hope in those moments

When you sing songs with your kids.

There’s hope in those times

When a plan comes together better than expected.

There’s hope in sitting on a blanket,

under a tree, a breeze blowing

as you watch the sun beams chase each other through the leaves.

There’s hope in a shared meal with those who care about you

Who understand the hard days and cheer for you on the good days.

There’s hope in watching the smiles of those around you.

There’s hope in writing stories and poems on a rainy day.

There’s hope in tender, squishy kisses from your little men.

There’s hope in those times when he holds your hand

On the days when you struggle to find the light.

There’s hope in those times he says nothing

but quietly places your favourite chocolate bar or that cup of coffee you need on your desk.

There’s hope to be found everywhere in those little things that happen every day

No matter how dark the day, how high those bills pile

How much it seems to be a struggle

There is always hope to hold onto and to carry you through.

For it is hope that sustains the human spirit

Even when there’s no end in sight.

It is hope that carries you over those hurdles.

It is hope that smacks those curveballs life likes to throw at you, far far away.

It is hope that you must grab, hold onto, no matter how dim its light is.

For no matter what happens, there is always hope.

Angelia Ong

01 Nov 2012

Whispers

Quiet solitude, words floating across the page

Sun beams dancing across your face,

Whispers on a breeze carrying thoughts to you.

Gentle words.

Love.

Hope.

Kindness.

Hug.

Friend.

Child.

Family.

Happy.

Kiss.

Laughter.

Whispers of words that resonate into your soul.

Whispers that stay still when you are at peace,

And keep the doubts and fears at bay when you are caught in the darkness.

Whispers that speak of memories.

Whispers that are free of reflections

Whispers that catch images of those you love

Like shadows in a candlelit room.

Whispers of your hurt and pain war with those of peace and calm.

All these whispers swirl like storm clouds across the vanishing horizon.

Your spirit is like those storm chasers

Knowing when to be still and just be in awe of the beauty

Knowing when to step away so your heart beats another day.

Whispers of power, strengthening your spirit.

Let the whispers wash over you, opening your soul and spirit

To the amazing things you can achieve.

Connect to those whispers as they shore you up

In those dark days where the storm clouds threaten to win.

Draw strength from those whispers

Wrap them around you like a cocoon,

Like a protective shell.

But do not hide behind them.

Reach out and grab the threads of life,

Weave them into those whispers,

Making them stronger and more powerful.

Whispers within your soul. Hold onto them.

Angelia Ong

01 Nov 2012

Tesco Online shopping and home delivery: our honest opinion.

Earlier this year, I had put my name down on the “interested parties” if Tesco Online/Home Delivery came to our shores.

So when we got a notification that we could now register for the online shopping, I signed up straight away.

The process was relatively simple, name, contact number, delivery address and email (and your Tesco clubcard if you were a member). I received a confirmation email straight away.

So off we went to shop, metaphorically speaking.

We could select from various categories, the fresh produce, household items, health & beauty, some other categories and the sub categories listed further choices, for example, you had vegetables split into root vegetables and so on.

There was pictures (yay!), they did load a little slowly and there were some duplication of images so you weren’t always sure if it is your regular product, and there’s no product description as such.

After making your selections, your items in the cart are listed at the side bar and you can add, remove, ammend up to 10:30pm, the night before delivery, which was useful.

You pay upon delivery (credit card or debit only) and you also get to choose your time slot for delivery.

Actually generally it was pretty straight forward to use, even if you aren’t a regular online shopper. It was pretty fully stocked with the items that we buy from Tesco, I don’t tend to buy fresh produce from there however, but I did this time, just to test it :)

On delivery day, the deliveryman went through the list and items in the basket (the kids found this whole process very interesting hehe), explaining which items were either not in stock or offered a replacement, we could choose to accept it or have that taken off our list. Once everything was checked off, only then you will pay. The kids found the truck very interesting, it was split up into different sections, including refridgerated and frozen. The deliveryman was pleasant and helpful so that was good too :)

The only real quibble I’d have is too many plastic bags, almost every product was in its own plastic bag (not much doubling up either), We try not to use plastic bags, preferring our re-useable bags, so a better solution for that should be found.

Overall a very good experience. I am not sure how often I’d use this service (we tend not to use credit/debit cards), but it’s good to have this option if we need it!

Where to go: Tesco Online Shopping

Happy shopping!
CF

J2 and the garden. J1 and the neighbour’s dog. K and…

The boys no longer receive an allowance and have to find their way to earning (part of our life skills list).

J1 has found a job walking and caring for a neighbour’s dog, she’s an older dog, very friendly, great with the kids and once she was trained to walk on the leash (by me), it’s becoming a regular part of our routine and he looks forward to it, it’s done wonders for his confidence and concept of responsiblity, we feel. He has expressed interest in becoming a vet so hopefully he can meet and chat to a practising vet to learn more.

j2′s job is to handle the garden (haha our potted chaos rather), he earns RM3 a week, sweep up leaves, water plants, any pruning, re-planting etc. I wanted him (since he says he’s very interested in botany/entho-botany) to have a go (he’s not comfortable with animals like j1 is, so this was a good idea for a job I think), it’s good exercise without requiring athletic skills, and he gets less “geli” by scratches and things. We started this last week plus and this morning he told me (out of the blue) that he’s started keeping a record in his lesson book (we have lesson books for what activities they do and so on), monitoring how the plants are growing(esp the new ones), what he did, whether he watered them etc. Like a botanist should. He did it all on his own! :D

We are excited as finally the Thai Basil is sprouting new leaves! and the lemon grass too.. Jasmine gave us plenty so we experimented in sticking the stalks into new earth.. the Holy Basil hasn’t shown signs yet, but we will keep trying! He seems quite happy at the moment, although he complains about heatlah, this and that.. it will do him good.

K wants his own job but we’ve told him that we’ve had to think of something for him, we aren’t sure yet, he’s not yet 8.

They attended the science show at this place in Taman Megah, they had an awesome time, asked tons of Questions, did experiments and so on. I think we need to sign up for the Pusat Science Negara family membership, they have cool stuff and workshops there. They also went to a new “leave your kids and go shop” place in IPC, called Blok Space where they can build lego sets, for a per hour basis (RM12 for an hour, other rates also apply, there are membership (or block buying of hours) options if I am not mistaken, check out their FB page!) so we had very happy boys yesterday :)

We started on an introduction to Geography and Botany, Don coaches them on their Math, and they have different subjects and methods to go through, I need to teach them how to research and how to filter that, and compile that information into a presentation or summary, but it’s been a good start I think. Each kid has its own learning style so it’s interesting to factor that in, some days are harder than others, especially with work looming etc. I have a more laid back approach to things some of the time, which may not always help :)

Trying to find a learning/unschooling routine amongst the craziness of our lives has been a challenge. But seeing their bright faces and soaking up knowledge or asking all manner of questions, it’s a delight (although sometimes the timing of their questions.. hmmm LOL). For K, he needs a group of his peers (or a little bit younger) as we think he feels as the “triplet”, but gets frustrated by not being at the same level as the twins. He can go back to cycling and his crazy leaping about by next week (After having his hernia op almost 3 weeks ago, agony to that active lil man). They are helping out a lot more at home, especially cooking and shopping and we still try to do one on one time with each kid with each parent, they socialise quite well at the park with a variety of kids so that’s good.

I just need to find our groove, our routine, I guess like the others have told me before, it’s a learning curve and we will adjust every so often, but I think they will thrive (some days I do wonder if I am doing the right thing!) in the long term. Trying to juggle everything including our business, has been an interesting journey I must say.

More on their activities later. Yes, I am a terrible blogger haha

Creative, Tech resources list.. Updated periodically.

The resources I know of, I will add when I have more, and have scrolled through my list of bookmarks haha

Art/Comic/Cartooning:

Cartoonblock:

http://www.youtube.com/user/cartoonblock

derwent pencils:

http://www.youtube.com/user/derwentpencils

Robot Portratits:

http://www.youtube.com/user/lifeinaustin

Music:

http://www.youtube.com/user/jwcfree

Scratch (how to animate, build own games):

http://scratch.mit.edu/

Turtle (programming for Kids, using LOGO)

http://logo.codeplex.com/

Kodu:

http://fuse.microsoft.com/projects/kodu

http://www.homeschoolprogramming.com/

http://www.teachingkidsprogramming.com/

GameMaker (make your own game)

http://www.yoyogames.com/gamemaker/studio

Stencyl (making your own game, it’s a bit more complicated than GameMaker, made by those MIT peeps)

http://www.stencyl.com/

AI:

https://www.ai-class.com/

Learn about electronics:

http://www.teagueduino.org/

3Danimation (Blender for Kids):

-coming soon-

make your own toys:

http://www.youtube.com/user/arvindguptatoys

Hacksaurus:

http://www.hackasaurus.org/en-US/

How to make maps:

http://www.google.com/mapmaker

cooking how-to:

http://www.youtube.com/user/foodwishes

Circuitry and so on:

http://www.raspberrypi.org/

Game reg: chemistry:

http://spacechemthegame.com/

Make your own games through RPG:

http://rpg.drivethrustuff.com/product_info.php?products_id=94507&affiliate_id=296418

Dance:

Movement lifestyle: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=28xxxSrvQ9U

Vinh Nguyen: http://www.youtube.com/user/v1nhnguyen

UrbanDanceCamp: http://www.youtube.com/user/UrbanDanceCamp

Other learning videos:

http://www.khanacademy.org

http://www.youtube.com/user/TEDxTalks

http://www.youtube.com/user/theRSAorg

http://ctrlpaint.com/library

Brief rant ahead

I am Malaysian. My kids are Malaysian. Who I vote for, whatever I choose doesn’t make me any less Malaysian. If I choose to ask questions & criticise, it’s cos I want what’s best for my country. It doesn’t mean that we question/change govt every so often, that there will be no peace/stability/econ development. It means those in govt who are ostensibly public servants are kept on their toes and in check, as you can be voted out if you do not perform as you should. It is NOT something to inherit or be permanently only for one party. I don’t care if you are from which side of the divide, if you implement policies or say/do very silly things, I will criticise. Deal with it. It doesnt make me any less Malaysian. My country is not 1Malaysia or BN. It is Malaysia. Habis cerita. /rantover

A new favourite poem (by Rudy Francisco)

Watch it accompanied by: Keone Madrids amazing dancing :)

“I’m a Superman, thanks to Lois Lane”- Rudy Fransciso

Superman… The Man of steel, Big Blue, The last son of Krypton
He is faster than a speeding bullet
Stronger than a locomotive
He has Lasers for eyes
X ray vision
and can fly without even flapping his arms
But his most notable power… was Lois Lane
The love of an amazing woman is a phone booth
That can turn a man from a spineless news reporter into a symbol of justice
Into the reason why its safe to walk outside while the sun is sleeping
I’ll be honest, I don’t have a cape… or a costume
I wasn’t born on Krypton and its been a really long time since I’ve been in a fight
But I will fight gravity for you
When you’re upset and don’t feel like talking I will use my x-ray vision to look inside of you and find out what’s wrong
If you need me to I’ll use my superhuman strength and put your entire world on my shoulders
If you let me I will do my best to be superman for you….
Because you deserve it.

2013 for the Cuddly Family/2012 synopsis

2012 has been an interesting year, for kids and ourselves. the Malaysian Games & Comics con went off better than I hope, for which I am glad, we are looking to organize another in 2014 :) We had our 1st sketchbook for STGCC & our own Comics are Cool! event. Educational experiences all ;)

We have had a lot of field trips, to White Brick Oven (artisanal bakers), introduction to aerospace programmes, more visits to Rhythm & Hues, getting to know more from the homeschooling/unschooling communities. Gamemaker classes, different things. Where are we going from here? I don’t know. We shall see. All I know is that the present system isn’t the best option right now for my boys, but where we can go from here, remains under discussion as it were.

I think 2013 will be a catalyst year, a trial by fire for our future projects & plans, good and bad perhaps, but something that needs to be done. I wanted to blog a lot of emotional thoughts, a lot of rantings, a lot more, but I decided to post a bit every other day instead. I wouldn’t call it a New YEar’s resolution plan or anything, just something that I should do :)

Having said that, May 2013 be an awesome year for everyone!! :)

Cuddly Mama